Last Thursday at a Georgia night club, partygoers decided to dance in their underwear. Thank goodness the Atlanta Police Department (APD) stepped in and saved the crowd of adult patrons from themselves by arresting them. If not for APD, consenting adults might have seen each other in their underwear. Doesn’t JC Pennny spend millions each year with footage of beautiful models wearing sexy lingerie in their prime time TV ads? Thank heaven that APD was alert to the danger and even called in the “Red Dog Unit” which is generally reserved for gang violence. Perhaps the police were concerned that the dancers might be packing Uzi’s underneath the elastic of their undies. Ultimately, 62 patrons and 8 employees were cuffed and forced to lay face down on the ground. What were these rebels being charged with, you ask? Indecency. Indecency, really? Haven’t the APD guys ever ever been to the beach or looked at a Sears Catalog? I wonder if the Atlanta DA will go for the death penalty against the CEO of Victoria Secret. Are our tax dollars really being spent on this nonsense? In Atlanta, apparently we are when it comes to gay bars. As the men were roughly being forced to the ground, they were also on the receiving end of anti-gay slurs and excessive force. Can you imagine people at a straight club in an upscale part of your city being treated this way? Of course not. This is discrimination against a sexual minority and it should bother every American. In this great country it has to be okay to be white or black or mexican or asian or gay or straight, or god forbid, even left-handed. In case you were wondering, “The mission of the Atlanta Police Department is to reduce crime and promote the quality of life, in partnership with our community…(and with values of) Dedication, Professionalism, Integrity.” Whoops!
Tonight on The Sex & Intimacy Show our special guest is Lorae. Like Tiger and Elvis, Lorae is so hot she only needs a one word name! Lorae is a sacred-sexuality educator who coaches men to be “enlightened lovers.” Her method mixes ancient practices like Tantra and Taoism with the latest western medical and scientific discoveries — and she does it in a way that’s practical, fun, and extraordinarily sexy. According to Lorae, being an accomplished lover is like being a pro athlete — you need to learn the fundamentals from experts, develop your skills, have intense desire and drive, then practice, practice, practice. I don’t know about you, but it sounds a lot more fun than Broncos training camp this week! www.sexandintimacyshow.com
Judgemental therapists give me a headache. Most therapists are compassionate, skilled, emapthic, loving, kind, supportive and nurturing. Several times per year however, including today, a new client sadly told me they were judged by their former therapist because said therapist wasn’t comfortable with the client’s sexual practices. That is maddening to me! As a member of the helping professions our vary ethos is to ”first do no harm.” Fortunately, just when my gaskets were about to blow, a dear friend sent me this lovely quote from one of our former professors. The following quote from Dr. Epp reminded me of just how many extraordinary people there are in our field, when she said: “I am a sexologist and that means I’ve given my life to the scientific study of organized information about sex. Just as I wouldn’t judge daisies over roses if I were a botanist, I don’t judge sexual behaviors.” ~ Janice Epp, PhD — You go, girl. BTW: Dr. Charles Moser wrote a book entitled Health Care Without Shame. His book is difficult to obtain these days, however our health care system would be a kinder, gentler place if Moser’s book was required reading for all health care professionals.
As I turned 52 tonight I couldn’t help but think about what I really wanted for my birthday and it hit me — Unconditional love and friendship. As I had dinner at a lovely restaurant with two friends, Dave and Pam, I realized that my birthday wish had come true. These are not just friends, but life-long friends, dear friends. We have survived Dave’s cancer and a multitude of other difficult issues together. We have traveled the country together, loved together and cried together. Dave’s sister recently married her wife in San Francisco. One of Pam’s two wonderful sons is gay. Our server tonight just so happened to be a wonderfully sweet lesbian woman who overheard our conversation and thankfully joined in. And me, I’m passionate about making the world a more sex positive place and creating equality for sexual minorities. It was a love fest! What more could a sex therapist want? We had one of those rare and deep conversations that goes beyond small talk. It was about being real. I wouldn’t trade tonight for a winning lotto ticket. All I can say is thank you my friends and happy birthday to capricorns everywhere. www.doctorcannon.com
Over the years I have observed that generally happy pepole tend to take their work seriously but themselves lightly. The following You Tube clip was made by a friend and colleague, the author and sex therapist, Joe Kort. If you feel like you need a two minute smile, this clip is for you.