I wish this post was about Iraq or North Korea however unfortunately we are talking about California, the largest state in this great nation. Merriam-Webster’s 10th edition contains the term and definition for “oral sex” (oral stimulation of the genitals). This past week, one parent in Riverside, California complained to the school district and the world’s most published dictionary has been banned from the 4th and 5th grade classrooms. This is the type of “head in the sand” policy that continues to cause increasing rates in STD’s and unwanted teen pregnancies. Our kids need comprehensive sexuality education. Ignorance solves nothing. I’m guessing that most 4th and 5th graders have access to a computer. When they do a Google search for “oral sex” like I just did, they are going to see that the search engine found 21,300,000 pages of information on oral sex, the first of which was “Free Nasty Oral” while the second was “give the best blow jobs.” CNN took a pole and found that 97% of the respondents are against banning the dictionaries yet the school board remains solid in their convictions and have vowed to “start looking for other things of a graphic nature.” I propose that the 11th edition of the dictionary shows a picture of the 2010 school board next to the word, “knucklehead”.
If I had a condom for each time somebody told me their sexual activity is down during the holidays, we could reduce unwanted teen pregnancies by 50%. If you want be among the group who has a December filled with romance, it starts with intention.
For 10 sure fire tips on how to get the sex you want this holiday season go to an article I wrote at http://www.accessrx.com/blog/sexuality-dr-neil-cannon/top-10-holiday-tips-for-sex/. Enjoy!
Over the years I’ve had wonderful therapists and I’ve had awful therapists. Most of my colleagues range from good to gifted. Unfortunately, I also come across therapists that I wouldn’t let pet my cat, let alone work with one of my friends. There is not a week that goes by that I am not asked how to select a therapist. I write a monthly column for AccessRx — a leading men’s health blog and decided to comprehensively tackle the issue in the hopes that it will help people know what to look for. A good therapist can help you heal while a bad therapist can do permanent damage. If you would like to learn more about how to make one of the biggest life-choices that you will ever make, you can read my article at the AccessRx.com blog. Look for the article called “Sex Whisperers: How to Select the Right Sex Therapist.”
Tonight’s guest on The Sex & Intimacy Show is Dr. Michael Bader the author of “Male Sexuality.” This is going to be a great show and I hope you will join us. Kim Cattrall, star of Sex and the City says of Michael Bader “reminds us that understanding erotic life is the best cure for what ails us.” I couldn’t agree more. Thursday nights at 10pm Mountain Time and Midnight EST. For listening information go to: www.sexandintimacyshow.com
Tonight on The Sex & Intimacy Show our special guest is Lorae. Like Tiger and Elvis, Lorae is so hot she only needs a one word name! Lorae is a sacred-sexuality educator who coaches men to be “enlightened lovers.” Her method mixes ancient practices like Tantra and Taoism with the latest western medical and scientific discoveries — and she does it in a way that’s practical, fun, and extraordinarily sexy. According to Lorae, being an accomplished lover is like being a pro athlete — you need to learn the fundamentals from experts, develop your skills, have intense desire and drive, then practice, practice, practice. I don’t know about you, but it sounds a lot more fun than Broncos training camp this week! www.sexandintimacyshow.com
Letterman or Leno? Despite the side splitting humor of Leno’s “Jay-Walking” segment, I’m a Dave guy all the way!
David Letterman on “The Top 10 Reasons Golf is Better Than Sex.”
#10…A below par performance is considered damn good.
#9…You can stop in the middle and have a cheeseburger and a couple of beers.
#8…It’s much easier to find the sweet spot.
#7…Foursomes are encouraged.
#6…You can still make money doing it as a senior.
#5..Three times a day is possible.
#4…Your partner doesn’t hire a lawyer if you play with someone else.
#3..If you live in Florida, you can do it almost everyday.
#2…You don’t have to cuddle with your partner when you’re finished.
And the number one reason why golf is better than sex…..
#1…If your equipment gets old and rusty, you can replace it!
Everyone has heard of the 7 year itch. In clinical terms there are actually three stages of a relationship that are at higher levels of risk for divorce. Years 7, 15 and 25. During those times it is easy to focus on the problems. I like the approach that my colleague Tammy Nelson (seen right) takes which is to focus on the strengths of a relationship, or what she calls the “Waking Up Stage.” When couples learn to re-connect the spark can live on for the long term. In her book, Getting the Sex You Want, Tammy says, “When you crave more passion in your relationship, you really crave move depth or intimacy.” If you want to hear Tammy live, you can tune in to The Sex & Intimacy Show this Thursday, July 23, 2009. www.sexandintimacyshow.com
Remember the song “I’m Too Sexy”? You know the one, “I’m too sexy for my shirt, too sexy for my shirt, so sexy it hurts”…
Well, I never thought I’d say these words, but it’s official. I truly understand the burden of being too sexy…TOO SEXY FOR PRIMETIME, that is! We had our inaugural show last week and we were just too hot for prime time, so we’re movin on up. The Sex & Intimacy Show will now air live on Thursday’s at 10pm Mountain (9pm PDT/Midnight EDT).
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I remember standing in the kitchen during the holidays when I was a little boy while three generations of Cannon women were cooking Christmas dinner. I recall asking my mom why she was cutting off the ends off the roast before placing it in the oven. She lovingly told me it was part of her mother’s recipe and that’s what made it special. So I asked her mom, my Grandmother Exie why she cut off the ends of the roast. Grandma Exie told me it was part of her mother’s recipe and that’s what made it taste so good. So I asked her mom, my great grandmother Mimi why she cut off the ends of the roast. Great Grandma Mimi looked at me with a funny expression and said, I used to cut off the end of the roasts because my old oven was so small. Not to be a buzz kill during the holidays, but 45% of first marriages end in divorce, 65% of second marriages end in divorce and 75% of 3rd marriages end in divorce. The reason for the same people getting divorced repeatedly is that they keep behaving the same way with different partners. The couples I see in my practice who respond best to therapy become highly conscious of their patterns and break old behaviors that aren’t working. The happiest couples tend to look for new ways to do things, new ways to love their partner, new ways to increase intimacy and above all else, new ways to grow together as a couple. Cheers! www.doctorcannon.com
I had a woman in my office recently who is in a new relationship. She is attracted to the woman she is dating however the more intimate they become, the more concerns she has about their sexual compatibility. As a strength based couples counselor I tell my clients at the first session that I will fight for their relationship longer than they will. In a perfect world, I would like for her new lover to join us in counseling however her lover is resistant. So at this point in time the woman is my client and therefore my mission is to help my client to reach *her* goals. Dating is an opportunity to explore and learn who we are going to be compatible with. Sexuality is the only thing that separates a friendship from an intimate partnership. The relationship we are discussing is very new and it seems to me that this is a wonderful opportunity for my client to think about what she really wants in a partner. When working with people who are dating and caught up in the excitement and fears that go with new relationships, I like to challenge people who are on the fence to expand their self-curiosity and help them be conscious as to whether they are “selecting, or settling”. www.doctorcannon.com