If you are a clinician and you are only going to buy one book this year, Sex Made Simple, by Dr. Barry McCarthy may just be the one. Barry was actually helping me this morning to prepare for my class that I am teaching at the University of Michigan when he mentioned that his new book will be published later this month so I immediately pre-ordered it.
I also learned this morning that Barry will be doing a clinical training here in Denver this December of 2015 with PESI. If you are a clinician and want to attend Barry’s workshop, just let me know and I will send you the brochure.
I have attended many of Barry’s workshops over the years however he really wowed me was the first time we met one on one a few years ago. I am sure you can relate to this that many people of Barry’s professional stature, when in social situations do a lot of talking about themselves. Barry on the other hand expressed genuine curiosity about me and I recall him asking about my therapeutic orientations as well as my preferred models and methods. Barry is a gift to our field and one of the nicest men one could ever meet.
Yesterday in Minneapolis I had the privilege of introducing my friend, Esther Perel, to 600 sex therapists for her key note plenary address. We were attending the annual international conference for the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors & Therapists (AASECT). AASECT is the leading certification body in the world for clinical and educational aspects of human sexuality.
Esther not only packed the house, but she shook it! I have never seen any other speaker at this event receive such a long and enthusiastic standing ovation following her speech. Esther is the author of the best-seller, Mating in Captivity and now has more than 7 million views on her two Ted Talks. Esther is a true thought-leader on the subject of eroticism.
Dr. Neil Cannon and Esther Perel speaking in Minneapolis
I was delighted to honor my friend, Doug Braun-Harvey in Minneapolis yesterday as Dr. Eli Coleman and the University of Minnesota announced the first research fellowship of its’ kind. Few issues in the world of sex therapy are more misunderstood than out of control sexual behavior.
From left to right: Neil, Dr. Anna Randal and Doug Braun-Harvey.
© Artcomedy | Dreamstime.com – Beach Chairs Photo
Why isn’t this couple in their chairs? Apparently they were somewhere having sex on Bradenton Beach in Florida.
Last month a Florida jury convicted Jose Caballero, 40, and Elissa Alvarez, 20, on charges that they had sex on Bradenton Beach. According to the Washington Post, Caballero could face the maximum 15 years because he has been out of prison for less than three years on a drug charge, but the Assistant State Attorney will seek a more lenient sentence for Alvarez: though they both must register as sex offenders.
So this couple had sex on the beach in broad daylight. There wasn’t consent by the other sunbathers and that’s not cool, but really — 15 years in prison and registration as a sex offender!
I can’t help but put on my taxpayer hat and say hey, would you mind fixing a few of the potholes between my home in The Highlands and my office in Cherry Creek?
I’m just sayen’
I have always admired Dr. John Gottman’s contribution to the field and our understanding of couples. The 25 year longitudinal studies produced by Gottman’s “love lab” at the University of Washington was invaluable.
If you are a clinician wanting to better understand Gottman’s principles, it all starts with training level I which will be in Denver on June 12 & 13. For more information go to: http://nationalmarriageseminars.com/event/gottman-level-1-training-denver-co/
I have taken classes with Dr. Bill Bumberry who will be traveling to Denver from St. Louis and he is a delightful man and an excellent Gottman trainer that I highly recommend.
Remember, the first to being a good sex therapist, is to first be a great couples counselor.
In 1997 in Rome, Italy, an 18-year-old girl was raped by her 45-year-old driving instructor, who was later convicted and sentenced to jail. The perpetrator appealed the sentence, and his case went to the Italian Supreme Court where the case was overturned. The Head Judge released a statement arguing that because the victim wore tight jeans, he assumed that she must have helped her perpetrator remove her jeans and, therefore, consented.
This is enraging and is commonly referred to as victim blaming. Sadly, because of the many women I treat for trauma, rape and abuse, I know that unfortunately this sort of awful activity continues to occur here in our great state of Colorado.
The Colorado Coalition Against Sexual Assault (CCASA) is holding its’ 3rd Annual Colorado Denim Day event in an effort to raise awareness about sexual assault throughout Colorado and to raise funds to support the mission of promoting safety, justice, and healing for survivors while working toward the elimination of sexual violence in our communities. Please join me…
Sign-up today! Go online to www.coloradodenimday.org/participate.
On Colorado Denim Day, April 29, 2015, state agencies, businesses, and other groups in Colorado will be asked to allow their employees to pay $5 in exchange for wearing jeans on Denim Day. Wearing jeans is a conversation-starter and visual sign of your support of survivors and CCASA’s mission to end sexual violence. Colorado Denim Day will show the power of communities coming together to support survivors and take a stand against sexual violence.
If you are going to be in the LA area on May 17, you won’t want to miss the world premier of Stake in the Ground my my pal, Dr. Jallen Rix. In this play that Jallen wrote and performs in, he exposes the damaging sexual shame and stigmas society dumps upon the innocent. It is also showing in Palm Springs on May 23 and 24. Fasten your seat belt and get ready for a wild ride with Jallen!
For ticket information:
Be a part of the World Premiere at
Highways in Santa Monica, CA
Sunday May 17, 2pm – tickets at: highwaysperformance.org
or phone reservations: 310-315-1459
Spend Memorial Day Weekend in the desert and see the
Palm Springs Premiere at the Desert Rose Playhouse
Saturday, May 23, 8pm & Sunday, May 24, 2pm
Tickets (on sale April 25) – desertroseplayhouse.org
Please allow me to introduce you to my friend, Esther Perel…
Everyone in our field knows that Esther is a shining star in the world of sex, intimacy and relationships. She is a masterful clinician practicing in New York City and the most eloquent person I know. Esther authored the “must read” book for couples called “Mating in Captivity” and she gave a remarkable Ted Talk viewed now by some 6 million people. Esther speaks a half dozen languages fluently and she has an extraordinary clinical understanding of eroticism. Esther epitomizes the concept of being an old soul.
My reason for writing about Esther however isn’t about her brilliance, but rather her professional generosity. Several years ago when Esther was visiting Denver, we were “talking shop” over dinner. She was kind enough to share an exercise with me that she does with her clients. I have been using it ever sense with my own clients however I hadn’t yet passed it on to the clinicians that I teach, supervise and mentor. So on this beautiful Sunday morning here in Denver, I sent Esther an e-mail requesting permission to share her work. Before I could get back upstairs with a fresh cup of coffee, there was a lovely affirmative response waiting for me.
That my friends, is professional generosity and I didn’t want it to go un-noticed. Thank you, Esther for all that you do for our beloved field, the clients we serve, and the work we do.
The Colorado Department of Human Services launched a new statewide child abuse and neglect hotline – 1-844-CO-4-KIDS. Governor Hickenlooper’s Child Welfare Plan “Keeping Kids Safe and Families Healthy” called for the creation of the hotline to promote greater safety for Colorado’s children.
Designed to provide one, easy-to-remember phone number for individuals to use statewide to report suspected child abuse and neglect, the hotline serves as a direct, immediate and efficient route to Colorado’s 64 counties and two tribal nations, which are responsible for accepting and responding to child abuse and neglect inquiries and reports. All callers will be able to speak with a call-taker 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.
We all play a role in the prevention of child abuse and neglect!
The University of Denver has a wonderful new resource center for separating and divorcing families. It is low cost, sliding scale and all inclusive. There are education services, therapeutic services and legal dispute resolution services. The program includes individual and family counseling which can be tremendously helpful. The services are available for separating or divorcing families with children. For more information go to www.du.edu/separatinganddivorcingfamilies. Phone: 303.871.3700.
It is programs like this that make me proud of my connection to DU where I speak to graduate level counseling and psychology students throughout the year.