I have had several clients ask me lately about upcoming Tantra workshops. Here is one being done by Dr. Sally Valentine in Florida. Sally has a lot of experience and this would be a wonderful workshop to attend for those interested.
This is a workshop designed for couples who wish to go deeper into exploration of their sexuality and sacred connection. Couples will learn breath work that facilitates greater movement of sexual energy; deepen their sexual knowledge of themselves and their partner, share more verbally and listen more completely on intimate levels; widen the lens of sacred possibilities and learn how current research supports the wisdom of ancient Tantra practices.
This workshop is ideal for practitioners and their partners, not only will you have the opportunity to experience the practices and processes, but, you can bring them back to your own clients!
Early registration ends June 24,2013!
Date: August 24-25, 2013
Presenter: Sally Valentine, PhD, LCSW
Telephone: 561-391-3305
Boca Raton, FL
Email: drsallyvalentine@me.com
Website: www.drsallyvalentine.com
AASECT approved for 12 CE credits.
FL approved 12 CE credits.
For details, go to: www.drsallyvalentine.com
As a Certified Sex Therapist, one of the biggest challenges we face with clients is a “sexual performance” mindset. For many people sex is about erections and orgasms. Gina Ogden does a fascinating job of changing the conversation to something much more relevant which is an exploration of the sexual experience as something much deeper than that. And she backs it up with research. This is a brilliant book and must reading for all sex therapists and couples counselors. It is also a wonderful book for people who want a better relationship, more intimacy and better sex!
This is a monumental day in the history of the LGBT community. NBA player, Jason Collins (34) came out today as gay and is the first active athlete in any of the four major US sports to come out as gay.
Rumors have been circling for several months that 4 gay NFL players are going to come out simultaneously before the season starts as well. For those who don’t follow sports, there is a well founded history of fear by gay athletes that if they come out, not only would it impact them economically by way of their contract, endorsements, and fan popularity, but there is also a great deal of concern about personal safety on the field or in the arena.
Imagine the shame of living a life holding such an enormous sexual secret for thirty some years, and imagine the courage it took to announce to a country and that can be intolerant of anything non-normative that I am different.
Jason was an all American at Stanford and subsequently played 12 years in the NBA. Jason is 34 and played this year for both the Washington Wizards and the Boston Celtics. He is currently a free agent.
I have treated countless men who were abused as children. For many, the shame runs deep. ”Why me? What did I do wrong? What if I was turned-on by the abuse?” For every man I treat who has been abused, there are different questions. One thing that rings consistently is a feeling of isolation when it comes to being able to talk about this their abuse. It is the big dark secret that men are afraid to discuss!
“Boys and Men Healing From Child Sexual Abuse” is coming to Boulder next week as a special preview. One of my mentors was instrumental in making this film and as such I had the privilege of following along with this film as it was being produced and was I able to preview it in its’ infancy. For men who have been abused, and the people who love them, it can indeed have the power to transform!
If this topic is of interest to you as a client or clinician, you won’t want to miss Boys and Men Healing!
April 9, 2013 at 6pm at the Boulder Public Library.
There is a celebratory day for everything from groundhogs to egg salad, so why not celebrate a little toe-curling sex? Back in 1980, Sex Therapist, Dr. Roger Libby launched National Orgasm Week and it has been going strong ever since. A little known fact is that the same Dr. Libby authored one of the best sex ed books ever created. ”The Naked Truth About Sex: A Guide to Intelligent Sexual Choices for Teenagers and Twenty-Somethings” is a wonderful book written in MTV format that is ideal for folks in that age group, as well as their parents!
Did you know that Colorado has a much higher than average number of baby boomers per capita than the average state? On February 4, 2013, I am delighted to be moderating a workshop on “Aging & Sexuality” that Marne Wine, LPC & Certified Sex Therapist will be conducting. The workshop is limited to professionals only. If you would like to attend and are not yet a member of AASECT, please e-mail me for details. neil@doctorcannon.com. If you want to read more about this topic you may enjoy the book, “Naked at Our Age” by Joan Price.
That’s Marne on the left, and Dr. Stephanie Buehler on my right.
A new study was released today by Sexual Health Rankings indicating that in terms of overall sexual health, Colorado was number 15, Vermont was 1 and Mississippi was last. Sexual Health Rankings is based on a holistic, positive concept of sexual health, first advanced by the World Health Organization (WHO), that is widely accepted by authorities in the health and social sciences.
Congratulations to Vermont! Perhaps a good next step for the good folks of Mississippi would be to start by legalizing sex toys!
I have been so busy with my practice that I have taken a hiatus from blogging however the misinformation recently provided by Kathie Lee & Hoda on the Today Show was so alarmingly inaccurate I needed some place to shout. They did a segment on “The New Sex Therapy” where they essentially said that clients could now pay their sex therapist to watch them having sex and give them feedback. Nothing could be farther from the truth.
Most Certified Sex Therapists are first and foremost, Licensed Mental Health Professionals governed by the laws and ethics of the state they practice in. As a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in the state of Colorado it would be a gross ethical violation for me to do what was described on NBC. This would apply to most mental health professionals in most states. If you see the initials LMFT, LPC, LCSW or Psychologist after the name of your sex therapist it is not likely they will be watching you have sex any time soon.
I frequently work with people who are trying to make sense of their sexual orientation. For some people it can be confusing and cause great stress on their intimate relationships. For others it can be uncomfortable because they don’t feel like they fit in with either the gay community or the straight community. Others still, wonder if they will ever be able to be happy with just one partner.
Whatever your concern, my goal is to help you find the path that works for you. For those who are in the early stages of exploration, you may find the information below to be helpful.
Bisexuality is when a person is sexually or romantically attracted to both men. Those attractions may evolve, come to life, or change over a person’s life span. Sexual orientation is a continuum ranging from pure heterosexuality to pure homosexuality. Being somewhere in the middle is perfectly normal.
The Kinsey Scale helps to explain the sexual continuum with zero as completely heterosexual and 6 being completely homosexual. In Kinsey’s research where he studied approximately 18,000 people in the 1930′s and 1940′s he found that a very small percentage of people are either a zero or a 6 and that most people fall somewhere in between.
Here is one of my favorite quotes by Dr. Alfred Kinsey from his book published in 1948:
“Males do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual. The world is not to be divided into sheep and goats. Not all things are black, nor are all things white. . . . [O]nly the human mind invents categories and tries to force facts into separate pigeonholes. The living world is a continuum in each and every one of its aspects. The sooner we learn this concerning human sexual behavior the sooner we shall reach a sound understanding of the realities of sex.”
Check out “Sex Pot.” This is the ultimate app for your I-Phone. The best 99 cents you’ll ever spend. Ask the Sex Pot anything, shake your sex pot and the answer to all of your most personal questions will be revealed. I admit it. I have personally “played with it” and loved every minute.
